How Open are You About Stress?
Business leaders were polled recently at a high-level symposium with this interesting question: "Is it appropriate to share much of your stress with your spouse?" As I watched the heads nodding, I knew this was a global concern among corporate managers.
Each of us carries stress in different ways. Some carry it in our heads, never seeming to relax, always searching for that next solution, worrying constantly, never quite present and often distant. What are these folks missing when they don't invite others in?
Others carry stress in their bodies. These executives are often sick or complain of chronic physical ailments. Their strength and posture weakens through the years. There is little wisdom in this martyr approach to dealing with their anxiety.
And there are those of us who carry our stress externally. We want everyone within listening distance to feel the pain of our stress. This burdensome sharing doesn't stop with coworkers; it continues to the gym, social situations and, of course, the spouse and family.
It is important to open up about the stresses of the day. Several keys exist to effectively release worry in a manner that will not tax your relationships. Here are five:
Permission: Be certain you have permission to share your stresses. Respect that others have their bucket full. Ask them if they are willing to listen. Watch their reactions. Never assume, even in casual situations.
Timing: If you come home each evening with a litany of your day's woes and your partner is equally stressed, what will this do to your relationship? Be sensitive to times of the day that are appropriate for such important interactions.
TMI: Know when enough is enough. In providing too much information, you loose the listener's interest and perhaps crucial feedback. Give minimal details, and then open the dialogue to questions, comments and opinions.
Venting: Some of us merely need to vent. If this is the case, say so. You may be done, relieved, and ready to move on while the receiver readies himself to problem solve and takes offense at not having the opportunity to do so.
Responsibility: Own your stress. It belongs to no one else. There are people and activities to help you deal with it, but in the end, you are the only one who can come up with the cure, be it physical, mental or spiritual.
In order to answer the question of "How much of my stress is appropriate to share with my spouse:": make sure you have their permission, be aware of the right timing, only tell what is important, specifically say that you are venting (if you are) and that you will find the solution, not them.
See what there is to learn about your stress this week. Ask for feedback in your previous sharing. It is too much? Not enough? What are the effects of either sharing or not sharing enough? Watch those whom you respect. Ask them how they share their stress and with whom. There is much to learn in this area. If you want to be a successful business or corporate leader, learning to sharing stress appropriately is one part of your success.
Enjoy your discoveries and have an outstanding week.
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